I try to wake up before the rest of the family and have some time in the morning to myself. This is the time when I try to figure out what I have to do that day, what I should do that day, and what I would like to do that day. I think that this helps me have a better day. I used to think it was the planning that made my day go better. I m now starting to think it has nothing to do with the planning and everything to do with sitting quietly for a few minutes without anyone needing anything from me. I might say that I look forward to the day when all my children are out of my house and I can spend whole entire days with no one needing me for anything, but I don't think I really am looking forward to that. So, I will enjoy my morning time, and not worry about the future that will be here too soon. I will also drink some tea, this makes me think I'm having nice quality time with myself, which is rare, and I will do my lesson plans and I will know that planning is silly because my day will not go according to plan. I will know that all other mothers likely feel the same way, and that will make me feel better because my chaos is more than someone's and less than someone elses.
My next question to ponder is how do I teach my children to plan, because some amount of planning is good, but also to be flexible when things do not go as planned? Is this something that can only be taught by example? Can I set up some artificial, yet real feeling, scenario such that my children see that planning is good and change is ok? Do I need to worry about that at all, or do children just learn this through life? I think I will worry because this was a hard lesson for me, that change is ok. I will continue to worry about the stress my children feel because of change and I will try to help them see that change is constant and normal and nothing to lose sleep over.
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